One of the keys to having healthy relationships is no secret: communication.

Communication is everything. It’s how you navigate the disagreements, the differences, getting your needs met and so on. We know this, every single self help, counselor, day time talk show host tells us this.

So why is it so hard? There are so many factors that influence our communication and in some cases, past trauma can make it almost impossible to do so. These are some things to ask yourself and your partner(s).

• How do you communicate? Are you assertive? Are you passive aggressive? Something else entirely? Do you even know how to? Knowing how you communicate is a very important step in having two-way communication.

• How does your partner(s) communicate their needs. Are they the type to be honest about what they want? Do they expect you to read their mind?

• How do you communicate with each other? Does it seem to happen effortlessly or is there a risk of an argument at every turn?

The easiest way to make sure that everyone’s needs are heard and hopefully met is to talk to each other. Ideally, this would happen organically through your day-to-day lives, but if there are factors that affect how often you’re able to talk with one another, a scheduled check in may be helpful. I know it sounds weird, but it can be as simple as scheduling a coffee date or having a meal with just between those in the relationship in a neutral spot.

Communication doesn’t have to only apply to romantic relationships. A lot of this can be applied to relationships with parents, close friends or even your boss.

If you’re struggling with how to communicate your needs with the people in your life, therapy can help.

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